We often hear men say ” I want to be with a smart, independent woman.” However, when it comes down to reality, it’s harder for independent women to find love. In fact, studies prove that the smarter you are, the higher are your chances of staying single.
Nevertheless, the reasons may not be what you think. Yes, it is a fact that more men are becoming emotionally unavailable. Yet, the reason why it’s harder for independent women to find love goes beyond choosing the right men.
They Know What They Want
The untold truth about being an independent woman, is that you have learned from your mistakes and past failures in love. Therefore, they are more conscious about the fact that not everyone is their soulmate.
Furthermore, according to a study oriented by Psychology Today, women are less interested in casual meetings than men. Consequently, once they realize that the relationship they are having is not moving forward, they leave.
They Are Intimidating
Let’s think about it for a second: An independent woman is usually someone who had to fight their way through life. In addition to having twice the trouble than men to reach their goals, they also know how to value themselves. Hence, men find them intimidating, especially when they ”know” more than their men.
Also, Jenna Birch’s book ”The Love Gap”, the author examines the pressure men feel regarding being the provider. So, when a woman is capable of bringing just the same to the table, it creates a mental obstacle for some men, as it hits their ”masculinity”.
They Trust Their Intuition
Women have simply proven that their intuitions are stronger than those of men. Therefore, when she feels that something is off, an independent woman who has been through it before, knows it’s right. Moreover, women who end up trusting their intuition and not always following their hearts, find it harder to find love, yet report to be happier that way.
Either way, a strong intuition that something is not working out for you shouldn’t scare you. On the contrary, women who often trust their inner thoughts tend to make the right long-term decisions.
They Believe Being Single Is Not a Flaw
Ultimately, the main reason why it’s harder for independent women to find love, is because they believe that being single is a choice. While the society still pressures women into wanting love, getting married and having children, not doing so is not a flaw either. Independent women go by the principle that ” If it doesn’t make you grow then it’s not worth it.” In fact, many women reported that they felt much happier alone than in the relationships they’ve been in. So, being single is much healthier for you than the wrong relationship/man.
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