Fighting with your partner is one of the most common relationship signs. In fact, it’s a perfectly healthy habit. Recent studies show that couples who fight together, actually have better chances of staying together.
According to a study published by the University Of Michigan, fighting with your significant other may lead to a healthier marriage. They concluded that surprising anger is more damaging than letting it out.
More Than a 190 Marriages Were Studied
The investigation process focused on couples who were together for at least 17 years. It included over 190 marriages, divided the into categories. The first one being those who express their feelings and communicate freely when angry. The second and third targeted couples in which only one partner expressed their anger, while the fourth one had couples who never discuss their sentimental issues.
Results reflected that the mortality rate was higher among the groups that repressed their anger. Reaching 27% mortality of one of the members of the couple. In the groups that did show their anger, those figures were down to 19%.
Couples Who Fight Are Actually Saving Their Relationship
In addition, comparing the medical records of couples, it was concluded that fighting with your partner reduces the chances of suffering from cardiovascular, lung or stress-related or anxiety-related diseases. Professor Ernest Harburg, one of the main authors of the study points out this out: As long as it does not go beyond reasonable limits, fighting with your partner from time to time is something beneficial, not only for health, but also for the relationship.
Too Much Fighting Though Is A Sign Of a Toxic Relationship
Nevertheless, and although fighting with your partner is healthy, over doing it is a sign of a toxic relationship. Because, after a fight, couples tend to find a solution to the conflict. While if that fight does not occur and anger is suppressed, the problems persist and are making a dent in the couple.
However, constantly projecting your anger and frustration on your partner may lead to depression, and cause reverse effects on the relationship.